Divorce a path to rebuild
Dear reader,
If you're going through or have recently gone through a divorce, I want to take a moment to acknowledge just how deeply painful, disorienting, and emotionally complex that experience can be. I personally know that pain, that grief…
Divorce isn’t just the end of a relationship. It’s the loss of a vision you once held, a rhythm of life you were used to, and a sense of stability that may have felt foundational. It’s completely natural to feel shaken. It’s also okay if you're experiencing more than one emotion at once: grief, fear, anger, guilt, even relief. There’s no one “right” way to move through this.
Here’s what I want you to remember: you are not broken, you are navigating something deeply human. Many people feel a deep sense of loss not just for the partner, but for the future they imagine. Overwhelming Anxiety about the unknowns ahead: finances, parenting, living alone, starting over. At a certain moment the guilt or shame appears, often asking ourselves, “What could I have done differently?” Did I try enough?. Meanwhile loneliness makes us realise our social circles are shifting or fading with our new “Divorced” status. Finally we might feel unlovable, too broken or incapable of building a meaningful relationship again.
If any of this resonates with you, I want you to know you’re not alone and there are ways through this. I personally felt like a zombie for months, like half my body was missing, between the frustration and the anger I couldn't stop crying. I learned to let go, I learned nothing was more valuable than my inner peace and the example of self love I was showing to my 3 daughters. They are thriving now, they are loved and I found myself again.
What can help right now:
Acknowledge your emotions without judgment. Your feelings are valid, even if they’re messy or contradictory.
Talk to someone who gets it. That might be a trusted friend, a support group, or a coach or therapist. Don’t go through this in silence.
Take care of your nervous system. Breathe. Move. Rest. Cry if you need to. Joy will come again but for now, treat your heart like something precious. Do a small act of kindness to yourself every day
Lean on your support system. Let people show up for you, even if you don’t have the words to ask.
Set small, gentle goals. Not everything has to be fixed at once. Just focus on what’s next.
If feelings get out of hand, Consider reaching out to your GP. Medication can be helpful when basic needs like sleep and feeding are being affected.
Rebuilding isn’t always fast or clean but it is possible. You can emerge from this stronger, clearer, and more grounded in who you are.
Reflect on what you’ve learned. What do you want more of or less of in your next chapter?
Set new intentions. What kind of life are you ready to create for yourself now?
Reconnect with your kids, your friends, yourself. Let joy sneak in again.
Allow space for both grief and hope. You can hold both.
If you’re parenting through divorce, I see you. It adds another layer of complexity and you’re doing your best. Prioritize connection, communication, and consistency. Kids are incredibly resilient when they feel loved, safe and seen.
Most of all, please don’t feel like you have to navigate this alone. As your coach, I’m here to walk beside you not to rush you, not to fix you, but to support you as you make your way back to yourself. Together, we’ll find the next right step, and the one after that.
You are not starting over. You are starting again with more wisdom, more strength, and more self-awareness than ever before.
With care and belief in you,
Andrea
